The problems lies with me..

I read something recently. It is an idea. Or it could be a perception. THe story goes like this:

IMagine a teacher in front of a class of students. The students are noisy and not paying attention to the teacher. They are doing all things possible to irritate the teacher; talking to each other, playing and teasing one another, drawing pictures and so on. Naturally, one would think that the teacher would get angry and scold the class.

But that is how children behave. They like to have fun and do the things that make them smile. Children will be children. It is no point getting all angry and screaming at them. Rather, it would be more productive to play along with them. Inject fun and laughter in your class.

But that is not the point of the story. The point of the story is that if the teacher gets angry, the teacher has a problem. The problem with the teacher is that he or she does not understand completely the behaviour of the children and the psychology behind it. The teacher has not taken the initative to think of ways to connect with the children. The teacher has not internalised the fact that the children has yet to master the concept of discipline and order. THey are still learning!

Moral of the story is that the problem may lie with the subject if the subject is unable to understand their objects clearly.

Applying this to the other aspects of my life, perhaps the problem lies with me. Especially when it comes to the topic of living with his parents. THey grew up in a different environment and had a totally different system encoded in their minds. So why should I be upset and angry and fearful? They are not doing anything on purpose to hurt me. They are just being who they are.

The fact now is that we all have different ideas and value systems. We have to tolerate each other and seek some form of compromise. That is the only thing we can do since there is no opportunity of moving out and living on our own.

Well, it is true that my hopes and dreams of having my own home has been dashed. But there is nothing much I can do since finance is the main point of consideration. Or rather, economically, it does not make sense to pay for two apartments at the same time.

Oh Lord, how many times do I have to tell myself this till it is very much ingrained in me? The process hurts so much. It scares me and drives me so often to tears and shivers. I pray for your guidance and assistance, such that I may see things in a more positive light. Amen.