I wonder, for me to move on, do I have to exercise the option of selective amnesia? As we move towards the future, we experience different things. Happiness, sadness, anger, misery, frustration, hopelessness and so on. Those moments will pass with time and so will the emotions. At certain points in life, do we stop and say, "Ok, I shall selectively delete this and that piece of my memory." Why do I have that thought?
As I move on to the next chapter of my life, I want to put the unhappy memories behind and move on to enjoy life and the moments. I want to grow up and take charge of my life so that here is meaning in more of what I do, so that I can be happy.
So, from this point of view, selective amnesia does apply here. We want to lose the memory but not the lesson. Can this be done? The lesson is tied to the memory. Without the memory, there would be no meaning to the lesson. How can we achieve that?
Things have happened and they cannot be reversed. Accept them for the lessons learnt. But draw a line and not let them affect your outlook of life. Constantly remind yourself of that....
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Your post on selective amnesia reminded me of a movie, not sure if you have seen it: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, where Jim Carrey's character opts to remove memories of his ex-gf (Kate Winslet) after finding out that she has done the same before. The movie brings about a lot of elements of destiny, and left me with a lot of thoughts revolving about the consequences of the possibility of this procedure.
I believe all the memories we have of anyone or any event are all linked and if we remember the sad, we will think of the happy, and vice versa. Perhaps if a relationship was mostly unhappy, we will hang on harder to the happy ones?
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