What are weddings all about?
A possible answer - Weddings are about the union of two people, who have come together on the basis of love, to legally bind themselves to a contract. The contract requires them to agree mutually to love and care for each other till death do them apart.
So weddings are about two people coming together with blessings from their friends and family. Imagine the couple being the seed of a fruit. Friends and family form the juice and flesh of the fruit.
I believe that. But why is it so scary and stressful now? Why do I feel as if it is not my special day anymore? Why do I feel so afraid to make suggestions or offer my opinions? Why do I feel so afraid of mentioning the topic?
I am so afraid whenever I think of his mother. So far, he has painted a picture of her. Someone petty and authoritative. Someone who will jump at any chance to put you down.
We are now registering our marriage here in Denmark. What would sound logical is that the customary rituals shall be carried out back home. But he insists on keeping our registration a secret. To pretend as if nothing has happened. And to go back to Singapore and register the marriage again. Checks with the relevant authorities confirmed that we cannot register again in Singapore as there is already a valid and binding contract between us.
I have a feeling that he is upset and he is bent on doing things his way without listening to others, including me. The only thing that will change his decision is black and white. How he is going to handle it, I am not sure.
I feel afraid sometimes, knowing that my words do not carry a single weight at all to him during these times. He is too confident of himself to the extent that he is a little proud and arrogant. But at the same time, I know that all this is a result of his passion, his belief.
Like always, there are two sides to a coin. While one is passionate, one is also stubborn and vehement.
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