Swinging

I watched the Oprah Show today. The topic was "Swinging". I wondered what it meant. The word looks ordinary and innocent to me. As the show unfolded, I finally had the answer to the question.

Swinging is a word used to describe the behaviour of adults who are married who carry out their sexual fantasies openly with other people (other then their partners). These people are generally married couples with kids. They meet in clubs and start off with the usual dinner parties and end up having sex with other people. SOmetimes, it could be a threesome or group sex. These people may not necessarily know each other. THey could have just met one another at the party. And couples engage in such activies with each other knowing that their partners are also doing the same thing at the same place at the same time. IMagine a couple going to a party and they have sex with other people. Couples swop partners or they do it together. In such an environment, the "Swingers" claim their they can pursue their sexual fantasies without feeling guilty because their partners are in the know as well. THey also claim that it has helped their relationships becuase their sex lives have become more exciting.

It is amazing!

Oprah made a comment that marriage is changing. THe whole concept of tying the knot and being faithful to your partner is changing. While I can accept that this is the choice of consenting adults, I wonder how young children are able to understand this. I believe that sex education in schools teach children that they do not engage in sex till they are much older and sex is reserved for the partner of their lives. It is a special and intimate relationship and activity that one shares with his/her life partner. Hence, if parents are doing this, are their actions not contradicting what we are teaching the children? Will our children be able to trust us and respect us? Will the children themselves grow up with the integrity that we expect them to? It is a wonder.

Who is to blame for the incidents of teenagers getting pregnant? Adults are to blame for we set the examples with our actions, for we do not do what we preach. Who suffers the consequences for the wrong actions? It is not just the teenagers suffering. THe future generation suffers. THey will grow up in an environment where the concept of family, respect and love is all eroded. The general public suffers because children will grow up to be delinquents. They commit petty crimes to vent their frustrations. The whole world suffers.

Is that what we want for our children? Is that what we want our world to be? I am not sure about that.